Oh What a Tangled Web We Weave

So this morning I wake up to a site, my little sister is patting my younger brother on the head telling him “it’s ok”. My heart stopped, then lurched wondering what the situation might be. “He misses his girlfriend” Lori told me with big dewy eyes, misses his girlfriend? He seemed happy the last few weeks, going out doing his own thing, riding his new motorcycle and hanging out with friends. She was the one too busy for him; she’s the one that had school and grad and prom, work and being tutored, all coming at her at once. He understood all that and accepted it and waited for her for over 2 months, when he found out she could have squeezed some time in for him (she was going to parties and hanging with old friends again, also dropped her class she was being tutored in) he chose to break out and do things as well. I don’t blame him for being hurt over finding this; I did encourage him to go out -- along with his other friends. So I asked him to tell me truthfully what he might be feeling. “I just miss the fun we had and the good times and just being with her, she told me the other night after her grad staff meeting she would be back to hang out with me but never showed – as always.” I know the hurt in his voice and felt the pain he was feeling; neglected, as a second thought, nothing important, something for bored time. I know how it is to love someone so deeply and not have them love you back as you need. He chose not to talk about it, thinking that the pain would eventually go away and he could make it easier --- it’s not that easy. If you love as completely as he does, it doesn’t just “go away or get easier”. In half pity I suggested he talk to her once more and tell how he’s feeling. “NO!” he said he was tired of spilling his guts out to her; feeling guilty making her sad and then days later she goes back to doing the same things again. “I’ve been reading my messages you think you are deleting Mark”, my head dropped. “She makes me feel like I’m the bad guy, not being there while she tries to contact me at 3am and wonders why I’m not answering.” Lori suggested answering her messages even if she wasn’t around and that is it, but I don’t agree. I think he is getting to the point where it is all or nothing for him; the waiting for those two months without a message was ok until he found out the other circumstances, now the sad “I miss you and I hate not hearing from you” she sends him are just hurting. Some times love is cuddly and warm and sometimes it kicks you in the nuts. He wiped his face, kissed his little sister and gave me a half smile; walked to the beach, blasted his I Pod playing Keith Urban “You’ll Think of Me”.