Online Daters The Real Gamers…

As promised, I thought maybe a barrage of thoughts and ramblings about online dating might be a topic to hit.
When I first started occasionally hanging out on the internet, I would jump on my brothers MSN messenger and talk it up with some of his friends, of course I had my own e-mail from school but for some reason messing around with his friends was more interesting. Eventually, I ran into one of his online “friends” who at the time had a crush on him – odd, I thought. Why would you even take any interest in someone away from you? The whole concept was totally new to me. This girl, sweet and very cute and really funny and loves to tease -- all great qualities in a person, why not go for a man right there and not my dinky little brother? Of course I’m talking about Amy.
She and I began talking online for months -- hours at a time, she squeezed my cell number out of me. We have carried it a bit further in that she can call/text me when ever. The return favor isn’t on my side but I deal with that the best I can.
I know people that have online dated for a while, met somewhere in Real Life and eventually married and had kids.
My friend Nancy for one did that, she prayed nightly, made the church have prayers for her to receive a man in her life. One night on the internet and she has her prayers answered, I won’t say where she is now in that relationship; due to the fact I haven’t seen her in a few months. But she does have a little boy and girl bouncing around.
My cousin Rhonda did the same; her husband is probably one of the coolest guys I’ve ever met. She’s much older than I, in fact has children my age and was lonely from her divorce. They met through an online dating service have a wonderful life now.
Jacks found a real winner later on, a huge psychopath that tried her best to dominate his life and then kill him with an emotional rollercoaster. Hot then cold, he didn’t know if he was coming or going with that one it was to the point he dreaded getting online to find out what kind of mood she might be in. She was a few years older than he (didnt act it) and didn’t want her other friends to know about their relationship, so it was kept under wraps. (I say so she could freely play around on him- which she was cold busted on.) Until one night of a suicidal outburst on her part and scaring him to death they parted ways. I could write a whole page of the mean and heartless things she pulled on him. He still cringes when you say the word “Skype” around him.
Of course its hard to emote your feelings within the just text world, I mean really, this whole post may be taken out of context to some as a slam or a huge joke to others. It’s mostly determined by your current frame of mind, I find its best if you are tired or in a bad mood not even to sign on.
Also, a lot of trust must be given, oh sure I can say “I love you Amy” hang up the phone and be with what ever I want. Who’s to know? Who’s to stop me? Well I would, for one, I have a hard time doing that to someone else -- playing with their emotions. There are some unlucky people out there that hook up with people that are cruel and heartless that really doesn’t give a damn. Its all a game and only fun to be had. Besides I know people with physical relationships that have that happen right under their noses.
Then there is Trace, really sweet guy, fell mad in love with a girl named Aurora. At first I thought she liked Jacks but she fell for Trace. (Jacks was with secret agent psychopath at the time) He wrote her a song and talked about her all the time and once instructed Jacks to play it during his little DJ gig. She lived about 1 hour drive away from us. The very weekend Trace was to venture off to meet her; he receives a “Dear John” e-mail. This devastated him to the degree of being on a constant drunk and piss ass mood for months – the whole summer in fact. Every night was the same thing “What did I do wrong?” along with “Mark you are a fool to waste your time with Amy” Countless times I’ve heard “Get out man while you can.” to Jacks and I. Well, I can’t --- and I don’t want to. No, Amy isn’t physically here when I have a bad day; she can’t give me that hug if I need it. But to know her and to be able to trust in someone as I do, I say we have a better relationship than a lot of people. When the day comes and the time is right, we will have our day and our time in the sun. For now, I enjoy and cherish the moments we have together, however we do get them.
So in summary, “Onliners” need a lot of commitment, trust, patience, caring, calmness, understanding, forethought, and a little vision of how things appear to others. ---- wait, you need that in any kind of relationship.