Another Monday Bites the dust

So walking was good on Monday NOTWe didn’t walk much really is was my workout day not my Moms. She wanted some wall paper hung on one wall to “liven” up a portion of the family room. I don’t mind really, she cooked a great lunch for me while I worked. She stood and watched and offered to hand me the tools I needed when they were needed. Four hours later and glued up hands the job was completed and I sat down to eat. After she and I did walk in the mall for a little while just to get her some walking time in as well. By that time I was worn out.The green house is booming, people are coming in by bus loads to purchase the mums and fall plants that are out. Fall is a time to decorate as well not only in spring.Bee is sort of sad because this is going to be the last week of the café for a few months. She loves talking to the customers and has a few regulars that come in she will miss. Its just too cool for an out door café in the winter months. She wanted her cousin to help and ended up getting her little sister instead during the busy hours to lend a hand. So I guess she will have to relocate to another job for the winter months.Luke and his mob are doing well the boys are drooling on schedule and burping in tune. Kyle is liking the idea now about them, he just figured out that they outnumber the cootiefied girls in the house. Camen still pretends they are dolls and wants to dress them in her doll dresses. She wants to be Tinker Bell for Halloween this year. I think that would be really cute for her.I have not really caught Jacks to talk to him much, he is preoccupied with his job once again. He plans on getting his position back from the time before. I say right on! This time he is going after that guy and his job.Lori is in big trouble once again and I didn’t even have to tell on her. She was cold busted straight out in the weather. Mom told her not to go to the pier on her own and she plopped her big feet out there the very next day. My aunt was out that way and called my Mom asking why Lori was out with a big gaggle of girls on the pier during school hours. Mom flipped, drove straight there embarrassed the fool out of her in front of her older friends and now she wont be going anywhere for the next four weeks. Its school then home and bed that whole time. No TV, no radio, no friends, no phones, no internet, just her and Mom and homework. I pity her, but she will learn to at least wait a day or two. Better yet, learn all the families cars so she can duck and cover.

Closing up tight

Today we are getting a few items packed away before winter sets in, not that we have such winters here. Fall has hit upon us hard and heavy at least the rainy portion of it. I don’t mind rain so much anymore, it used to make me so angry with it holding me back on jobs. Lots of times now I trudge right on with it making due with other jobs to be completed. I guess trying to organize your working habits help.
A while back I had a business class and that was part of the assignment; we had to make a mock business and do “work arounds” on different problems that may arise. I of course used my landscaping business as my example, it helped me out tremendously and I got a few tips along the way.
Cari and I have been having some adventures as of late, her daughters are wanting to do a pumpkin carving at the greenhouse. I said yes of course because I cant but help to love those two little kiddos. The youngest one always races up to give me a hug and tell me the latest school gossip. I wish she attended the same school as Lori so I could get the dish on her. How I wish I could come in and say something to Lori about her school activities just to blow her mind.
Lori is doing really well in her classes, the last semester she couldn’t say that was it was reported she was a bit chatty in her classes and seemed to be easily distracted. A couple weekends of no phone, no computer and not leaving the house, the matter was cleared up.
Mom is a walking fool these days, she gets up early in the morning and walks just 15 minutes on her treadmill and then what ever she needs the rest of the day.

Rings & Tangled webs..

The wedding went off without a hitch and they are off in honey moon land enjoying the island breezes in Hawaii and being happy in love. Just like its supposed to be, I guess.
I never did understand why they waited to have the wedding on a Monday night until it was explained to me. Apparently that’s the night they met during a football party, which is kind of cool. Meeting your true love during a festive event. If I already hadn’t, I wouldn’t mind meeting mine like that, during a game or a meal or golfing.
Cady looked beautiful in her dress as she marched down the row beaming. The after dinner party they changed and were ready to hop around the dance floor a bit. They both were giggles and snickering and whispers to each other -- I was jealous. I like to see that in couples, the hand holding and smiles that make your face hurt and the pure joy in their hearts, whispering whatever to each other and then laughing.
It proves to me there is true love out there.
It also makes me think of the game players, mainly because one of the game players was invited to the wedding as well. Women that tell you one thing and do another behind your back. That sets me off in a minute and I want to lash out with every four letter word I can at them and knock the dude in the head and tell them to wake up and smell the cheater.
My old Ex used to be very demanding of me, in what I wear, who I talked to, even wanted to dictate the classes I chose. At first, I thought of it as “Aww, she loves to take care of me” then I woke up and figured it out. In reality she was doing the cheating and sneaking around behind my back, doing whatever she wanted and she was afraid that I might be doing the same, so she kept tabs on me.
It took me a little over 2 years to figure that one out, she was caught one time and I let it slide, didn’t say much just nodded my head and rolled it off my back. “I promise it was nothing sweetie, honey, dearest.” “He was the one making all the moves on me!! I had nothing to do with it” - like an idiot I defended her. She was up my ass for two weeks catering to my every move, eventually the niceties diminished and she was back to her bitchy crabby self again.
Then strike two arrived and she was cold busted, this time the guy came to me and a couple of my friends. Once again I didn’t say a word, but this time I picked up my toys and walked away. I wanted to have nothing to do with her. I stewed for a couple of weeks, she called and knocked on my door and followed me around for the longest time. I was pissed off at the world and didn’t want to have anything to do with anyone, I blogged daily. Then that day came and I blew a gasket and told her how I felt.
It hurt me to say those mean words to her, but then again it was like a huge weight had been removed from my chest. I told her exactly how she was acting and how she treated me and how others felt about her. Looking back, mistakes on my part were made as well. I should have told her straight off the bat when she acted a fool around me. I do that now……I also should have told her when I felt she was lying to me….I do that now also. If someone acts like a selfish prig - its pointed out. I expect the same in return.
I guess it takes some kind of growing up when you are in a relationship. Some give and take of course, and patience of a saint. A lot of trust is needed but most of all respect. If you don’t give a damn how your actions are going to come back and hurt the one you are in love with then you need to end it and move on. Its going to save you and the other person a lot of pain later on down the road, or maybe in reality they don’t give a damn anymore and pick up there toys and move on themselves.

Weddings!!

-sings like a giddy school girl- Wedding, Wedding Weddingg!! I forgot about the wedding. With all the other crazy antics going on my life I totally forgot about my first cousins wedding this Monday night. Weird night to have a wedding but she is in the service and wont be home until this weekend. Danny has been in Japan doing I guess Japanese duties, really he is in sales and they boot him around the world all the time. Nice job!
Cady is about to be released from service (or may have been already) so they planned the minute she is out they would do their vows and get it over with. Right on! They are both much older that I am and have their lives on track and set to go. That doesn’t mean everything will always be rosy for the two of them. No head games or fickleness between the two, which I admire. He wants to go all out, she wants to be modest. He wants to show the whole world who he is getting married to she wants a simple ceremony. I’m with him on that market, give her anything and everything she wants, hand her the world-then and tomorrow.
Its in our make up of who we are. (Ok now, I’m getting deep but I’ve been sitting on a lawnmower for four hours)
When you are born you are dependant on your parents right? To bring you up, show you manners, an education, well, its not the law but a good game plan on their part. You grow and learn and develop something or someone that is you. Your make up, something that defines you in life, every little of Life’s encounters help you in that development. The bully down the street, the guys on the ball team, the tree house you make with you dad, the pillow fights you have with your brothers. The funerals, weddings, birthdays, skate parties, the list goes on and on. Everything, Everything!! in your surroundings are your makeup, your being what you do with them is your choice.
High school the steaks are a little higher, an easy wrong move and your whole life has changed. Now Life’s lessons are a bit tougher, choices are harder. You can be the punk or jerk or asshole, a pushover or a geek or a jock. At times I think I hit everyone of them, but they “made” me the guy I am today. Do we want to do drugs or drink or go out every night and party, maybe be with all the girls and blow them off, maybe we want to be that baseball star or God forbid, crack a book open.
College hits us and of course Life is right there knocking it up a notch or two just to make that ride a little more bumpy. What are you going to be? Will you study? Will you drop out? Bills and more bills and responsibilities are swirling around you now like a psychedelic cyclone while you walk on a tight rope hoping not to fall off. If you are the parent you hold your breath and watch them fly.
Relationships hit a new high, they are deeper more meaningful less of a cute fling but hard cold feelings that can make you feel like you need to throw up, or stand in the rain and shout to the world in joy. They also can be pretty freaking scary, “Its in the plan man” who wants to hook up and not feel anything? Boring.
The job world, hopefully you picked the one you always wanted. Now when I was little I didn’t sit back and say “yeah, when I grow up I want to be a lawn boy” especially after an afternoon of weeding in my grandparents garden. It just happens.
Then that one person “the one” comes along, you don’t see it, you don’t expect it, “bam” right in you lap per se. Ah the euphoria and joy and newness of it all!! You wake up in the morning and it’s the first you think of, at night you slide into bed and they are the last. You cant have enough of them and when they are away there is such an emptiness in your whole being. You miss the giggles and laugher and ---- the arguments. We all got to have them, its in our make up but more so in that we find a way to learn and love. This is one thing my PG would always say to me “Mark, love always, always love, no matter how angry or bitter you are over the fight. Think about the love you have for that one person, because really the anger you have, is the fear of losing that love”. I’ve listened and I believe in my grandpa….because “Its in my makeup”.