Rings & Tangled webs..

The wedding went off without a hitch and they are off in honey moon land enjoying the island breezes in Hawaii and being happy in love. Just like its supposed to be, I guess.
I never did understand why they waited to have the wedding on a Monday night until it was explained to me. Apparently that’s the night they met during a football party, which is kind of cool. Meeting your true love during a festive event. If I already hadn’t, I wouldn’t mind meeting mine like that, during a game or a meal or golfing.
Cady looked beautiful in her dress as she marched down the row beaming. The after dinner party they changed and were ready to hop around the dance floor a bit. They both were giggles and snickering and whispers to each other -- I was jealous. I like to see that in couples, the hand holding and smiles that make your face hurt and the pure joy in their hearts, whispering whatever to each other and then laughing.
It proves to me there is true love out there.
It also makes me think of the game players, mainly because one of the game players was invited to the wedding as well. Women that tell you one thing and do another behind your back. That sets me off in a minute and I want to lash out with every four letter word I can at them and knock the dude in the head and tell them to wake up and smell the cheater.
My old Ex used to be very demanding of me, in what I wear, who I talked to, even wanted to dictate the classes I chose. At first, I thought of it as “Aww, she loves to take care of me” then I woke up and figured it out. In reality she was doing the cheating and sneaking around behind my back, doing whatever she wanted and she was afraid that I might be doing the same, so she kept tabs on me.
It took me a little over 2 years to figure that one out, she was caught one time and I let it slide, didn’t say much just nodded my head and rolled it off my back. “I promise it was nothing sweetie, honey, dearest.” “He was the one making all the moves on me!! I had nothing to do with it” - like an idiot I defended her. She was up my ass for two weeks catering to my every move, eventually the niceties diminished and she was back to her bitchy crabby self again.
Then strike two arrived and she was cold busted, this time the guy came to me and a couple of my friends. Once again I didn’t say a word, but this time I picked up my toys and walked away. I wanted to have nothing to do with her. I stewed for a couple of weeks, she called and knocked on my door and followed me around for the longest time. I was pissed off at the world and didn’t want to have anything to do with anyone, I blogged daily. Then that day came and I blew a gasket and told her how I felt.
It hurt me to say those mean words to her, but then again it was like a huge weight had been removed from my chest. I told her exactly how she was acting and how she treated me and how others felt about her. Looking back, mistakes on my part were made as well. I should have told her straight off the bat when she acted a fool around me. I do that now……I also should have told her when I felt she was lying to me….I do that now also. If someone acts like a selfish prig - its pointed out. I expect the same in return.
I guess it takes some kind of growing up when you are in a relationship. Some give and take of course, and patience of a saint. A lot of trust is needed but most of all respect. If you don’t give a damn how your actions are going to come back and hurt the one you are in love with then you need to end it and move on. Its going to save you and the other person a lot of pain later on down the road, or maybe in reality they don’t give a damn anymore and pick up there toys and move on themselves.